Self-love is pretty big these days. I must say though, that it’s starting to blur a line between love and pride. I know cause I just recently realized that myself. I started creating a life that is entirely up to me and still find myself fall short. These days my head is much clearer and I am beginning to see things in a bigger picture. I am healing myself in any way possible by letting go of things, people, and emotions no longer making me feel like me. I just want to share some of the lessons I am just starting to grasp and apply in my life. I hope you still have time because I am sure this will help you somehow.
The right kind of self-love makes you RESPECT YOURSELF.
You are so much more than what the people around you is trying to turn you into, and yet as we all know the worst enemy is our brain. Respecting yourself means choosing your battles and choosing the words we listen and believe to. If you find yourself compromising or pretending to only like something just because everyone’s doing it, even though deep inside you don’t feel comfortable doing it, you are disrespecting yourself. There’s a difference in being adventurous and fun and being a doormat of other people’s opinions of you. Respect yourself and know what you really want and don’t stray away from it just to feel validated.
The right kind of self-love makes you FORGIVE YOURSELF
No one’s perfect, but with all the well-curated, edited photos from all the Instagram posts you furiously scroll all day, you kind of think that somehow one magic filter will make your life perfect, or at least look perfect. No one really tells you that loving yourself means you can forgive yourself for not putting on makeup all week or saying no to a party because you want a whole day all to yourself and watch Harry Potter reruns, don’t you? Now, I’m telling you, it’s okay. Forgive yourself for not being perfect and not wanting to be one. You are entirely up to you. If you hate yourself just because you feel inadequate, it will show. I know this one’s a tough call but, you can actually forgive yourself for all the things you did and did not do. Use those so called “mistakes” as lessons, and create a better version of you.
And YOU CAN FORGIVE OTHERS
I don’t know what you went through, and I don’t know what you are going through right now. I still have a lot of people to forgive in my life as well. Every day, you can choose to forgive, it’s a really fragile that word is, but still try to do so. Hate is a double-edged sword. Hate makes you overlook the good things in life. Forgive others because you love yourself and you are worth all the good things in life.
REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE
Even if the world likes label, you can still choose to step out of the stereotypes. Choose your own adjectives. I had a friend who told me that I cannot go back to who I was, and maybe that’s correct, or maybe he just wants me to be sad, I don’t know, but as far as I know, he’s still out there always mad, always have something to fight about. If the world broke you, there’s nothing wrong with going back and remembering the good things. Chances are you are still that same person, only wiser and stronger.
Most importantly, DO WHAT TRULY MAKES YOU HAPPY
I like stalking celebrities’ accounts and I sometimes feel like I have to act or be like them to be happy. Guess what? I don’t and you don’t. Sure, I still check their accounts sometimes on a daily basis (yes, I am guilty of that) but I realized that I still want to be my authentic self. I am not a celebrity but I am special too. I have my own ideas, I have my own life and I think now, it’s my turn to color it wild wild colors imaginable.
Now, it’s your turn too!